So, Here’s The Thing
If you’re being excluded by a bunch of people because you said something racist, sexist, ableist, transphobic, homophobic, fatphobic, or any number of things that hurt/offend marginalized people, it’s not because they’re “too uptight” or “don’t have a sense of humor.”
It’s because you’re being a raging doucherocket, and they don’t need to invite that kind of nastiness into their everyday life; especially if it’s something they or loved ones deal with every fucking day, and don’t want to hear it from you, too. It’s because they may need one space where that shit doesn’t get thrown in their face, because the moment they step outdoors they have that disgusting, dehumanizing attitude coming at them from every angle.
And it’s not something you can just shut out. It’s not something that you can ignore. When it’s so pervasive, it permeates every aspect of your life.
But you can minimize your exposure to it, by cutting out people you know are going to be repeat offenders.
And if that’s “too PC” for you, if that’s not something you can handle, if you feel excluded and ignored and marginalized because you’re not allowed to express something that actually hurts someone else and they’ve made the decision not to have that as part of their life,pleasedon’t go whining about how those meanie marginalized-peoples won’t let you into their “club”, and how that makes youjust as oppressedas they are.
It’s not the same damn thing.
Homophobia in fiction is still homophobia
A criticism of Persona 4: The Animation
Very good breakdown of problematic misrepresentation in the media.
A lovely demonstration of homophobia in this country.
In case you hadn’t guessed from the slew of recent posts, Microaggressions is a spectacular website, showcasing just all the small things in our everyday life, and how they pile up to make marginalized groups feel, well, marginalized.
It also illustrates how these attitudes are still prevalent today, today, as in an age where we believe we are so enlightened and free from prejudice (and when I say “we”, I mean White, Cisgendered, Middle-Class-or-Wealthier, Heterosexual, Temporarily Able-Bodied Men more often than others, since that’s the assumed default in this country- even though we sometimes face these attitudes from our peers/people belonging to other marginalized groups).
I really recommend a read. It’s appalling, frustrating, heartbreaking, and gives an insight to attitudes many aren’t aware still float around to this day.
“[You] Just Need to Choose!”
“Being bi is just a transition step between straight and gay. People who are bi just need to choose!”
Two of my friends (both 19-yr-old college students) reacting to bisexuality.
I hate this attitude. So. MUCH. Bi-erasure is sickening, and it gets really awful when it comes from within the LGBT (Or the QUILTBAG, which I like as a much more inclusive acronym) community itself; where else is a bisexual person going to go for support?
Okay everyone- time for a topic that might make some of you uncomfortable, especially those of you reading this who might actually know me. We’re going to talk about sex… and not wanting it.
Every time the topic of sexuality comes up in discussions, I always feel like I’m standing outside of this inclusive group of people who have either had sex, or haven’t yet but really keenly want it. I just can’t identify with that kind of wanting. I know longing, to be sure, and I’m familiar with how good sexual stimulation can feel, but I don’t understand looking at someone and going, “THAT. I want that, right now, in my bed/on my couch/in my jacuzzi.” It’s never happened for me.
This isn’t to say that I’ve never tried playing along with the game, just to feel included for a change. I’ve commented how attractive some folks seem to me, and grinned at pictures of half-naked men, but it doesn’t connect for me the way it seems to for others; it’s all a farce. I can see attractiveness in people, sure, but I don’t feel anything other than, “Ahh, there is an aesthetic to how this person looks.”
I am asexual. This is not a widely accepted-as-real sexuality (or lack thereof). I’m not crying persecution, or anything of the sort, but I would like to discuss the topic a bit.